Sunday, April 2, 2023

It is not good to die alone... (Palm Sunday 2023)

 


One of my favourite verses from the Old Testament is in the Book of Genesis where God tells Adam “It is not good for man to be alone.”

You might think it odd that a celibate is keen on that verse, but it not only announces the creation of woman, but also states a basic truth. It is not good for man (or woman) to be alone. Making due allowance for our need for privacy and solitude, we all want to be with others at least some of the time.

I don’t like eating alone, I don’t like praying alone. You can ask Father Zidago! One or two of my assistant pastors—though not him!—got a bit frustrated when I wanted them to show up for meals and join me in the chapel for Evening Prayer.

My insistence comes partly from how I think priests should live in community, but it is also a question of what I personally need. And I’m in good company: Pope Francis made this very clear after his election when he announced that he wouldn’t be living alone in the Apostolic Palace but in a Vatican hotel surrounded by other priests.

It is not good to live alone. But it is also not good to die alone. That is why the Church accompanies the dying with such tender care; with solicitude, with special prayers and rites. This is why we pray so fervently for our sick and dying parishioners.

It is not good to suffer alone. Even in a hospital bed, surrounded by people, we might feel alone, but still we never need to suffer alone—because we can suffer together with the one whose suffering we have just heard described in excruciating detail. Whatever our suffering—mental or physical—Jesus, the man of sorrows, wishes to be at our side to accompany us, to strengthen us, to say to us “You are not alone. I am with you. I am beside you in your suffering.”

There are many reasons why we begin this Holy Week with the reading of the Lord’s Passion but one of them is to make it real for each one of us—to make it matter for us.

It was necessary that Christ die for our sins, necessary that he give his life for the redemption of many. But surely it was not necessary that he suffered in such an awful fashion.

The Passion therefore has a double value: Jesus places himself in the Father’s hands by accepting death on the cross. But he also places himself in our hearts by accepting absolute solidarity with all who suffer and especially with those who suffer most.

Today we have read the Passion. Archbishop Fulton Sheen points out, however, that Jesus didn’t want us only to read about the great drama of Calvary but to be actors in it. We are actors in the drama whenever we participate fully in the Mass. But we also enter deeply into the mystery every time we unite our sufferings with Christ’s.

A friend who looked over my homily asked “But how do we do that? My sufferings are nothing like his.” My answer was: Precisely. That’s why uniting our own miseries with Christ’s is possible and powerful. We are not alone. Our sufferings, be they small or great, acquire purpose and meaning when they are united with his.

As we enter Holy Week, let us pray that these each of our solemn celebrations will make a difference in how we live—and how we die.

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